Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Ask Me

I have gotten some good questions on my Formspring . I thought I would post some of them with my responses...kinda turn it into mini interview type of thing.

I think i read somewhere that you adapted the name, Varla, after the character in a Russ Meyer film. Is this true and if so, why and what characteristics do you feel you share with her.
This is true. I don't think I share characteristics with her because she was sort of a man hating, sociopath. lol. But watching that movie further brought out Dominant fantasies which eventually lead to me becoming a Dominatrix.
For one, I love girl gang movies. There aren't nearly enough out there.
Secondly, Varla could physically overpower and beat up men and that really appealed to me. I got into doing "beatdowns" as a form of Domination due to my fantasies especially after seeing this movie.
Lastly, Varla is HOT. There is really no denying that. And I really admired the fact that the actress, Tura Satana, wasn't the typical all American girl. It was rare that there were minorities in movie roles back then (particular Sexpo,) and when there were they were usually put into very stereotypical roles. They still are. I feel that both Tura Satana, and her Character, Varla broke the mold in many ways and I really admire that.

how did you get into the whole domina thing?
I had been fantasizing about it since my late teens, but never got the nerve to take that first step. The original Head Mistress of the first house I worked for discovered me on Myspace- I was doing fetish modeling at the time for fun- and asked me if I'd be interested in interviewing to work for her dungeon. I took her up on it, and the rest is history. That was almost 5 years ago.

Do you do anything to get into 'character' before a session or are you always in character, i.e. You don't necessarily play a character because you're just being yourself. Hope that makes sense.
Well "Mistress Varla" is a character, but she's really just a facet of who I am. Unless there's some kind of role play going on I am always myself. Once I start playing I will click into that "Mistress Varla" mode. How I act...playful, sensual, strict, etc. really depends the sub, the energy exchange and my mood.

Have You ever turned down a sub that wanted to serve/session with You?
Yes. Often. These days I only do sessions that I feel I will get enjoyment and fulfillment out of.

has a guy ever asked you to do something to him sexually that refused because it was to weird or strange
I have a few limits. I don't poop on people, I won't castrate anyone, I don't do adult baby stuff, no racial play, no animals, no "jobs" of any kind, no sex. I could be forgetting some stuff but I am pretty open otherwise. Sometimes weird or strange can turn out to be really fun.

Could you really beat up those guys if they weren't letting you? Physically I mean. This isn't a moral question.
Honestly? Probably not. But it really depends on their fighting experience. If they had none, then I have a chance. If hey had some, it would either be an equal match or I'd get my ass beat. I don't think size/weight and all of the necessarily factor into it. I'll be training in Jiu-Jitsu so I can learn to take down people twice my size.

how did you get started kicking guys in the balls? well I meant in general what got you started and then what lead you to do it professionally
Around 11 years of age I kneed a boy in the balls after he cornered me and tried to kiss me. I'm not sure where the instinct came from. Maybe I was born with it. The experience stuck with me all through my years. The first time I did it professionally, it was in a session I sat in on as part of my Domme training. It just happened to be a ballbusting session. Things clicked at that point and everything fell naturally into place after that.

What's your favorite thing about balls?
They are soft and squishy! And I don't have any! I have testicle envy! If I had balls I would play with them all day long.

what other fetishes do you enjoy besides ballbusting?
Thank you SO much for asking this question. I have been waiting for someone to ask me this question so that I can make it perfectly CLEAR that I do MUCH more than ballbusting and I am a VERY versatile Domme. I have close to 5 years of experience and I take pride in the dedication I have had in learning my craft and not being afraid to try thing.
I enjoy:
abrasion play, anal, ass play, ass worship, ball gags, ball stretching, bastinado, bdsm, biting, blood, body modification, body worship, boots, breast/nipple torture, breath play, caning, cbt, chains, chastity, choking, cock and ball torture, corporal punishment, corsets, crying, cupcakes, dessert sploshing, dildos, domestic servitude, duct tape, electrotorture, emotional sadism, face fucking, fear play, fisting, foot domination, foot worship, gloves, golden showers, high heels, knife play, leather, leaving marks, lingerie, masochism, massages, medieval devices, mindfucking, needle play, objectification, orgasm control, orgasm denial, otk spanking, pain, photography, punching, pussy spanking, restraints, rough body play, sadism, satin, scratching, sensation play, sensual play, service, service-oriented submission, silk, single tail whips, slapping, slavery, smoking, smothering, spandex, spanking, spitting, stockings, strap-ons, teasing, tickling, torture, trampling, wax, whips.
Now this is surely not everything!! BTW, I copied this list from the listed fetishes off of my fetlife account if you're wondering.

Can you enjoy a session if you're not physically attracted to the other person?
I'm rarely physically attracted to the people I session with...I just have very specific things I am attracted to physically. This is going to sound cliche, but it's the absolute truth...what is important is whether I am attracted to the energy they bring, as well as mentally...and eventually, hopefully emotionally attracted to them.

do you like leaving marks and welts during caning and spanking sessions? What is the longest someone as worn your marks?
I absolutely love leaving marks and then admiring them. I would say the longest marks, other than permanent ones, have lasted over two weeks. I prefer to have the option of marking someone, but it's not a requirement for playing with me.

What is your favorite "disciplinary instrument"?
I don't correct or punsish with pain, but my favorite implement is my 4ft. leather single tail whip.

Have you ever been submissive in a scene or normal life?
I did a professional sub scene twice with the same guy. It was a spanking scene. I liked the guy and respected him, I enjoy a spanking now and then, and we had done a scene before where I spanked him so I was comfortable with him. The spanking was nice but I couldn't get into him Dominating me...I just kept laughing which would make him spank me harder. The second sub scene I did with him, he spanked myself and a Mistress friend of mine. We were supposed to be naughty school girls (he provided the uniforms) and he was the head school master or something. That was actually pretty fun because I got to experience it with a good friend of mine. We were making each other laugh that time and of course got hit harder for that. Then we were made to stand in the corner showing off our red asses. Good times.
I have bottomed to women a few times and I don't mind that now and then. Women just know how to be sensual and I find it easier to be seduced and lulled into a submissive mindset with them.
Personally- I have let two men attempt to top me personally. The first was a guy I was very good friends with. We are both tops, but we went to a few S&m clubs together in San Francisco and we wanted to beat each other so we just switched off.
The other guy I let spank me as a going away present. I laughed through that whole experience too. I was used to him being submissive to me so it was just a really unique, funny experience. I tend to laugh at pain too. It's an involuntary reaction.
There is ONE guy that I have fantasized about giving me an over-the-knee spanking but I'll never tell. :)
Overall, I hate the idea of submitting to men. I was raised by a Feminist mother so I just have a knee jerk reaction to females submitting to males. I don't like to see males topping females in porn either. For the most part it makes me want to gag.

If you had a choice between a lasting relationship with a honest hardworking man or the Dom lifestyle you are living, what would you choose?
If I HAD to choose it would be my current lifestyle. I have worked pretty fucking hard to get where I am in life today- that includes emotionally, mentally, professionally and they all kind of tie in together. Why would I then just give that all up? Very good question!

As we all know, As we age certain things happin to ourselves both mentally and physically, What will you do as a career when this change happens to you?
Veterinarian Technician, or animal rescue, or porn mogul, or videographer/video editer, or photo editer, or sex columnist...or...who knows. Whatever I am inspired to do when I get to that point. I'm not concered with the future. I live for today


advochasty said...

Are you joining Veronica's girl gang?

You have balls. Attitudinally speaking that is! :-)

I was raised by a feminist mommy and I turned into a subbie. Go figure...

Though you may become a vet tech, an editrix, or a porn mogul...Varla will never die.